Lawyers in Lockdown - A simple act of kindness
I’m sure that many of you have seen articles highlighting the fact that this week is Mental Health Awareness Week. This has taken on increased significance in the Covid environment and will continue to do so as we ease out of lockdown. Amongst other things, this awareness week gives us a great opportunity to change how we view mental health and start to understand the challenges that people face with mental health problems and how they came to experience them, but, more importantly, how acknowledging their strengths in talking about these problems and how small acts of kindness help make the difference in dealing with them.
According to Mind.org approximately 1 in 4 people in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year, obviously these issues will range in severity. The COVID 19 pandemic has increased anxiety and depression for a number of reasons, which include:
and this is not intended to be an exhaustive list.
It is well documented that lockdown has impacted upon stress and anxiety for a number of people. Working from home can cause increased anxiety and depression as it becomes difficult to escape from the working environment that seeps into your home life. There is always the temptation to look at another email or respond to a phone call. All of this sandwiched around juggling childcare and home schooling with the added pressure of needing to be seen to work that extra bit harder to ensure that businesses survive and come out of the economic downturn. Lockdown brings a state of heightened anxiety which ordinarily would be alleviated by the simple leaving of the office or seeing friends or going to a gym, cinema or theatre, none of which are currently available.
Lockdown also impacts on our ability to recognise the signs of who is struggling, of who might need access to necessary support. Virtual team meetings have been essential and vital to continue to develop business and ensure continuity with clients, but they do not allow you to pick up body language which is often so helpful in assessing someone’s mental state. At the best of times, people find it hard to accept that they are struggling and it is often perceived to be a weakness, which in a profession such as law no-one wants to admit.
I am not ashamed to say that I have struggled with anxiety, both pre Covid and post lockdown and I wanted to share my thoughts on how we help those around us who might be struggling, and to offer some personal observation on what works for me in these difficult times. The first and most important thing is to talk about mental health awareness and to identify the simple things that make a difference. As a firm we have done this and our Managing Partner, James Clewlow, summed it up at a meeting last week when he said that all we have to do is to be kind to one another. Whilst for me this sums up the ethos of PDT, it is also the theme of this week’s mental health awareness campaign. For me, the opening up of a conversation about mental health wellbeing and creating a safe environment in which we can discuss such matters is the key starting point.
For me the second important thing is to be honest with myself and recognise when I am having a good day or a bad day, when I feel unmotivated or isolated and in so acknowledging these things, recognising the coping mechanisms that help me with such matters. Simply picking up the phone and having a conversation with a colleague (a problem shared) or taking the afternoon off, or going for a walk are key things that help me develop a coping strategy. If simple steps such as this don’t work, then it is important that people can feel free to speak to a colleague that they trust so that they can get extra help or support and, in doing this, it is important that no-one should feel shame in doing so. Since lockdown I have really welcomed an increase in phone calls between those I work with not only to check up on the work that each of us are doing, but also to check up on how we each are. The phrase “how are you?” has taken on a new meaning and I have found that people who before lockdown found it difficult to talk on a personal level, have embraced the importance of demonstrating kindness and understanding.
The third thing that really makes a difference for me is to set a routine. Even though it might not be my normal routine, setting one has really helped. Not least because it gives you a perimeter to ensure that you avoid what I describe as a Covid burnout and that it allows you to have the mental breaks that you need. When I find it difficult to maintain such a routine, my family are great enforcers at helping me switch off and maintain that, often overused, expression of “work life balance”.
Finally, I have found that being mindful of the wellbeing of others, of listening to others when they say they are struggling and simply asking a question “how are you?” has really helped me in myself. I always make the point of calling someone back the next day just to check in with them and I have found it amazing how such a simple act of kindness has made a difference to both myself and, I think, to how everybody copes with, what is at times, for different people in different levels, a difficult and challenging situation.
I hope that these personal observations and coping strategies that work for me might help and work for others.
If you are struggling to cope, I have listed a few websites which may be able to assist:
Charity providing support if you have been diagnosed with an anxiety condition.
Phone: 03444 775 774 (Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 10pm; Saturday to Sunday, 10am to 8pm) www.anxietyuk.org.uk
A charity providing support, advice and resources for people with eating disorders
Phone: 0808 801 0677 www.b-eat.co.uk
A charity helping people living with manic depression or bipolar disorder. www.bipolaruk.org.uk
CALM is the Campaign Against Living Miserably, for men aged 15 to 35.
Phone: 0800 58 58 58 (daily, 5pm to midnight) www.thecalmzone.net
Men's Health Forum
24/7 stress support for men by text, chat and email. www.menshealthforum.org.uk
Mental Health Foundation
Provides information and support for anyone with mental health problems or learning disabilities. www.mentalhealth.org.uk
Promotes the views and needs of people with mental health problems.
Phone: 0300 123 3393 (Monday to Friday, 9am to 6pm) www.mind.org.uk
Voluntary charity offering support for sufferers of panic attacks and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). Offers a course to help overcome your phobia or OCD.
Phone: 0844 967 4848 (daily, 10am to 10pm). www.nopanic.org.uk
Support for people with OCD. Includes information on treatment and online resources.
Phone: 0845 390 6232 (Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 5pm). www.ocdaction.org.uk
A charity run by people with OCD, for people with OCD. Includes facts, news and treatments.
Phone: 0333 212 7890 (Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm) www.ocduk.org
Rethink Mental Illness
Support and advice for people living with mental illness.
Phone: 0300 5000 927 (Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 4pm) www.rethink.org
Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair.
Phone: 116 123 (free 24-hour helpline) www.samaritans.org.uk
Mental Health Awareness Week takes place from 18-24 May 2020. The theme is kindness.
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